"Being your own worst critic," "Over-achieving," and "Never being satisfied are just some of the things that people answer when asked, "What is your worst character trait?"
These are all text-book answers to text-book questions that are asked in interviews for virtually anything. If you are answering truthfully, why not stay true to yourself when it comes to everything in life?
Settling on a mate for anything from a fling to a long term relationship is not something that anyone would recommend, but it is something that people do on a daily basis. The terrible choices that are made, are often made when nobody is watching, because we care what other people think so much. WHY DO PEOPLE CARE WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK? People should be making better choices whether they are home alone or out in an amphitheater.
I have seen my friends become victims of their own bad judgment while also victimizing others. When I say "victimizing" I do not mean anything immoral or illegal I mean causing an unfortunate chain of events to unravel.
I might be on the theme of doing in what is best for one's self, but it is the most crucial theme in today's world. The economy has been destroyed by greed, but in a way that was not selfish. Now how is this possible? Isn't greed by definition selfish?
Greed is defined as excessive desire to acquire or possess more (especially more material wealth) than one needs or deserves or avarice: reprehensible acquisitiveness; insatiable desire for wealth (personified as one of the deadly sins.)
While heads of companies were taking risks with other people's money in order to acquire more wealth. The greed was not selfish in the way that it was SOLELY for one person's benefit, it was for a group of upper management and potentially their shareholders' benefit.
BACK TO MY POINT OF SETTLING.
When someone settles on a mate for any amount of time, he or she is harming themselves and not performing an action that is enhancing one's life. I truly believe that everything that I choose to do is enhancing my life at that point in time (hopefully with as few consequences as possible). The bottom line is that if you sell yourself short, you not only have not given yourself a fair shot at success, but you are also lowering future expectations that can and should be high.
If a guy settles on a girl (it works both ways), he is lowering his total utility. Even if the girl is a vehicle for a means to an end, one would rather use a nice car instead of a crappy car to get from point A to point B.
When you find yourself about to settle on anything, think twice and ask yourself the interview question.
Hopefully you will get the right answer.
If the answer is
Monday, June 1, 2009
Monday, May 18, 2009
Selflessly Selfish
I figured it out. People who claim to be selfless are lying. Selfishness is what keeps the world going. As wonderful as it may seem to have children (something I disagree with), parents will often do everything in their power to make a child’s life miserable.
Keeping a child happy is not an easy task, but when one has a child, they are automatically burdened to keeping this child clean, fed, and sleeping normally.
I feel that people who rush into marriage, and make it their life’s objective to get married and have children often find themselves trapped because of the commitment that people fall into.
There are several issues in this action of rushing into marriage, or relationships for that matter. When someone decides to date someone, the beginning is great! There is not a flaw in the world with the other person, everything is new and exciting, and then you get to know the other person.
Getting to know someone is one of the most interesting things in the world, I get to know myself everyday. I realize my strengths, weaknesses, fears and ambitions. The older I get, the more I realize that nothing scares me except commitment itself. I am committed to myself. I am selfish. This is not a bad thing, selfish has a negative connotation, but if you look for synonyms for “selfish” you will find “self centered”, “self-seeking”, “self-interested”, “egotistical”, and “egotistic.”
Yes! I want to take care of myself. In this world, nobody is going to do you any favors. If I do something and it benefits somebody else, I don’t want to be thanked, I don’t want recognition, I wasn’t trying to get anything out of it, I was merely seeking an objective. As funny as it may sound, I find myself making more people happy by making myself happy.
It was easier for me to treat my friends to something because I want to do that “something.” I don’t see this as wasteful, because it is something I want to do, I am not getting conned into doing something. I am voluntarily spending my time/money/ effort on pleasing myself; the fact that my friends are present is a mere casualty of my selfish efforts.
As much as I don’t care about what other people think about me, I do things that seem selfless, generous and even outright insane, because it makes my selfish actions look that much more socially acceptable.
Children Are Selfish, it’s not their Fault
Nobody chooses to be born, nevertheless, once we make the journey out of the birth canal; we are now dependent on other people for a long time until we can wipe our own ass, buy food and dress ourselves. Even then, those are utter basic necessities for our day-to-day lives that are taken for granted when we are older.
A baby cries when he or she is hungry, tired or needs their diaper to be changed. Parents who show disgust at the basic daily “chores” of taking care of a child are victims of their own actions. The responsibility of taking care of a child are so huge that parents don’t actually realize the vastness of the task until they are in too deep, so to speak.
Children are not responsible beings, and why should they be? Parental units need to display a sense of altruism towards their children whether they like it or not. If a parent does something that society deems bad parenting the parent could be deemed unsuited for parenting.
Parents need to be the role models for their children, which makes life so complicated, balancing everything in order to stay under the radar, yet effective. I feel like I have achieved this balance, yet I am not satisfied. Having said that, I do not want children; I just want to be happy by doing what I need to do in order to be successful in everything.
Be Proud, but don’t Flaunt it
As mentioned above, staying under the radar while being successful is key. If you start showing off your success, people begin to suspect something is up, but if you stay low-key and keep a close circle of friends who you can trust, and not have to ever worry about. It is all too often you hear about close friends who ruined another close friend’s life by stabbing them in the back.
If you are going to drive a Ferrari, know what the consequences will be. Be prepared to prove that your Ferrari is yours and not the proof of some illegal activity that will surely land you in jail or even worse, dead.
Remember that if you are generous, people will question your motives. That’s why everyone should live within his or her means not go into debt, pay bills on time, and everything will be OK.
There is nothing for wanting the “finer things in life,” but the price you pay for those things will sometimes come back and haunt you. People are always trying to get that nice watch, nice car, mansion in Beverly Hills, etc.
How it Ends
The world is all supply and demand that forces people to do things. Hot girls are limited in supply so they have a higher price, the healthier food is more expensive; thus taking care of yourself by spending money is selfish; there is nothing wrong with that.
Keeping a child happy is not an easy task, but when one has a child, they are automatically burdened to keeping this child clean, fed, and sleeping normally.
I feel that people who rush into marriage, and make it their life’s objective to get married and have children often find themselves trapped because of the commitment that people fall into.
There are several issues in this action of rushing into marriage, or relationships for that matter. When someone decides to date someone, the beginning is great! There is not a flaw in the world with the other person, everything is new and exciting, and then you get to know the other person.
Getting to know someone is one of the most interesting things in the world, I get to know myself everyday. I realize my strengths, weaknesses, fears and ambitions. The older I get, the more I realize that nothing scares me except commitment itself. I am committed to myself. I am selfish. This is not a bad thing, selfish has a negative connotation, but if you look for synonyms for “selfish” you will find “self centered”, “self-seeking”, “self-interested”, “egotistical”, and “egotistic.”
Yes! I want to take care of myself. In this world, nobody is going to do you any favors. If I do something and it benefits somebody else, I don’t want to be thanked, I don’t want recognition, I wasn’t trying to get anything out of it, I was merely seeking an objective. As funny as it may sound, I find myself making more people happy by making myself happy.
It was easier for me to treat my friends to something because I want to do that “something.” I don’t see this as wasteful, because it is something I want to do, I am not getting conned into doing something. I am voluntarily spending my time/money/ effort on pleasing myself; the fact that my friends are present is a mere casualty of my selfish efforts.
As much as I don’t care about what other people think about me, I do things that seem selfless, generous and even outright insane, because it makes my selfish actions look that much more socially acceptable.
Children Are Selfish, it’s not their Fault
Nobody chooses to be born, nevertheless, once we make the journey out of the birth canal; we are now dependent on other people for a long time until we can wipe our own ass, buy food and dress ourselves. Even then, those are utter basic necessities for our day-to-day lives that are taken for granted when we are older.
A baby cries when he or she is hungry, tired or needs their diaper to be changed. Parents who show disgust at the basic daily “chores” of taking care of a child are victims of their own actions. The responsibility of taking care of a child are so huge that parents don’t actually realize the vastness of the task until they are in too deep, so to speak.
Children are not responsible beings, and why should they be? Parental units need to display a sense of altruism towards their children whether they like it or not. If a parent does something that society deems bad parenting the parent could be deemed unsuited for parenting.
Parents need to be the role models for their children, which makes life so complicated, balancing everything in order to stay under the radar, yet effective. I feel like I have achieved this balance, yet I am not satisfied. Having said that, I do not want children; I just want to be happy by doing what I need to do in order to be successful in everything.
Be Proud, but don’t Flaunt it
As mentioned above, staying under the radar while being successful is key. If you start showing off your success, people begin to suspect something is up, but if you stay low-key and keep a close circle of friends who you can trust, and not have to ever worry about. It is all too often you hear about close friends who ruined another close friend’s life by stabbing them in the back.
If you are going to drive a Ferrari, know what the consequences will be. Be prepared to prove that your Ferrari is yours and not the proof of some illegal activity that will surely land you in jail or even worse, dead.
Remember that if you are generous, people will question your motives. That’s why everyone should live within his or her means not go into debt, pay bills on time, and everything will be OK.
There is nothing for wanting the “finer things in life,” but the price you pay for those things will sometimes come back and haunt you. People are always trying to get that nice watch, nice car, mansion in Beverly Hills, etc.
How it Ends
The world is all supply and demand that forces people to do things. Hot girls are limited in supply so they have a higher price, the healthier food is more expensive; thus taking care of yourself by spending money is selfish; there is nothing wrong with that.
Monday, May 11, 2009
The Lakers Don't get Bailed Out
Yesterday the Los Angeles Lakers did not care about anything work related, sure they showed up, put on their purple jerseys, laced up their shoes and stepped foot onto the court at the Toyota Center in Houston; but that was it.
The Lakers played as is it was not the playoffs, a sin that still is not excusable in a regular season game; yet far more reprehensible when it comes to pro basketball games in May. The lackluster approach is kind of like the approach that the government’s stress tests showed: nobody really cared too much.
The government cheated on this test by helping each one of the student aka banks in their efforts to pass these tests. In the event that a bank was not sufficiently capitalized to withstand financial panics, make sure that enough capital is raised, and last week the Wells Fargo and Morgan Stanley issued $15 billion in common stock and bonds in order to close the potential gaps.
The problem with the teacher’s help here is that the students do not learn anything from these actions, they now know that someone will always give them a hand even at the brink of failure, and better yet a real second chance after a complete failure.
As the Lakers played with no sense of urgency, or with the prospect of taking a dominating 3-1 series lead over the Houston Rockets; the banks teetered through the stress tests with flying colors. Sounds like a paradox? Well, it is.
When it comes to the playoffs, it is win or go home. In this economic era, the private investors have the same option to win or go home, whereas the big banks have only one choice: to win.
Lakers head coach, Phil Jackson, said, “We're a little bit of a team that needs to have sometimes a spark put in us to play,” The Lakers lacked a sense of the necessity to win this game, because it was not absolutely necessary! The Lakers will show up on Tuesday night, and play like the game has some importance, and they will prevail in the series.
Makes you wonder how much more the economy can prosper if the government let’s the banks be like the Lakers were yesterday, let them fail, just for a day and then see them come back stronger than ever.
The Lakers played as is it was not the playoffs, a sin that still is not excusable in a regular season game; yet far more reprehensible when it comes to pro basketball games in May. The lackluster approach is kind of like the approach that the government’s stress tests showed: nobody really cared too much.
The government cheated on this test by helping each one of the student aka banks in their efforts to pass these tests. In the event that a bank was not sufficiently capitalized to withstand financial panics, make sure that enough capital is raised, and last week the Wells Fargo and Morgan Stanley issued $15 billion in common stock and bonds in order to close the potential gaps.
The problem with the teacher’s help here is that the students do not learn anything from these actions, they now know that someone will always give them a hand even at the brink of failure, and better yet a real second chance after a complete failure.
As the Lakers played with no sense of urgency, or with the prospect of taking a dominating 3-1 series lead over the Houston Rockets; the banks teetered through the stress tests with flying colors. Sounds like a paradox? Well, it is.
When it comes to the playoffs, it is win or go home. In this economic era, the private investors have the same option to win or go home, whereas the big banks have only one choice: to win.
Lakers head coach, Phil Jackson, said, “We're a little bit of a team that needs to have sometimes a spark put in us to play,” The Lakers lacked a sense of the necessity to win this game, because it was not absolutely necessary! The Lakers will show up on Tuesday night, and play like the game has some importance, and they will prevail in the series.
Makes you wonder how much more the economy can prosper if the government let’s the banks be like the Lakers were yesterday, let them fail, just for a day and then see them come back stronger than ever.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
The Performance of Performance Enhancing
When things are going badly around you, that is when you start looking for people to blame, for example, Bernie Madoff was exposed during the worst economic times seen in most people's lives.
Today, Manny Ramirez of the Los Angeles Dodgers was suspended for 50 games for violating the league's drug policy. According to Manny's agent, Scott Boras, the substance was not steroids, it was a substance that was in a medication that was prescribed by a doctor.
It sucks, but you know what? Manny should have known.
Is it a coincidence that this happened a day after the Dodgers broke the record for most home wins to start a season? Probably not. In sports, when things can't any get better, they usually don't. This has occurred on several occasions from the 2004 Laker "dream team" whose season ended in a nightmare in Detroit all the way to Mike Tyson getting KOed by Buster Douglas in 1990, and many other times throughout history.
Why is it that when you are at the top, you have nowhere to go but down, and when you are at the very bottom, as I wrote last night, you have nowhere to go but up.
Finding equilibrium is the key to everything. Consistency toward winning, proving yourself day after day, and ultimately you will get to the top, but the competition should be as tight as possible to keep you honest.
Today, Manny Ramirez of the Los Angeles Dodgers was suspended for 50 games for violating the league's drug policy. According to Manny's agent, Scott Boras, the substance was not steroids, it was a substance that was in a medication that was prescribed by a doctor.
It sucks, but you know what? Manny should have known.
Is it a coincidence that this happened a day after the Dodgers broke the record for most home wins to start a season? Probably not. In sports, when things can't any get better, they usually don't. This has occurred on several occasions from the 2004 Laker "dream team" whose season ended in a nightmare in Detroit all the way to Mike Tyson getting KOed by Buster Douglas in 1990, and many other times throughout history.
Why is it that when you are at the top, you have nowhere to go but down, and when you are at the very bottom, as I wrote last night, you have nowhere to go but up.
Finding equilibrium is the key to everything. Consistency toward winning, proving yourself day after day, and ultimately you will get to the top, but the competition should be as tight as possible to keep you honest.
Wednesday, May 6, 2009
Mr. Cuban has a point...
When you hit rock bottom, you have nowhere to go but up.
http://blogmaverick.com/2009/05/06/the-problem-with-the-stock-market/
Monday, May 4, 2009
Time to make WEE
Ever wonder what people are thinking by blogging? Is it self gratification? Is it to pass time because you are bored? Or is it to publish something to use as a future reference. I recently read a paper written by a talented senior at USC, and in the paper, one of the works cited numerous times was her blog.
This was such a revolutionary idea, that I had to blog about it. There is a lot of opportunity out there, and I would like everyone to know that I will be the name in the ranks of billionaires. Just trust me, follow me on Twitter, Facebook me, and blog about me.
Just do it. Nike.
This was such a revolutionary idea, that I had to blog about it. There is a lot of opportunity out there, and I would like everyone to know that I will be the name in the ranks of billionaires. Just trust me, follow me on Twitter, Facebook me, and blog about me.
Just do it. Nike.
Wednesday, March 25, 2009
The Facebook Update
For anyone who does not know what Facebook is... what am I saying? Everyone knows what Facebook is. So when I log on to Facebook one of the many times a day i do, I see the new developments in my "friends'" lives.
While I have welcomed Facebook with open arms, and utilized the many REAL benefits of it such as reaching out to people to come to a fund raising event, or party or just to hang out. The truth remains that Facebook legitimizes the way human sexual behavior takes place. I am not going to go into detail about my personal life or anyone else's for that matter; however, when I see girls and guys constantly updating their profiles, pictures, or status's several times a day, it becomes somewhat of an advertisement for that person.
The key to advertisement is that if you say something enough, it starts to become true. This is true about 99.9% of things out there in life. I don't need a Snuggie, but because I've seen the commercial more than several times, it seems like an item I absolutely cannot live with out.
On Facebook, the same concept exists, except that it is about relationships. People are programmed to see and respond. If you are logging onto Facebook for 2 minutes 10 times a day (you know it's at the very least that), and you see the same 3 or 4 girls or guys in your news feed, they are now for sale in your mind and to everyone else who is seeing them.
These people may or may not be "bad" products, however, they are not necessarily "good" products, they are merely available. To relate this to the importance of sexconomics, these people are in large supply and thus cheap. The more pokes, comments, messages sent to them increases the demand and thus increases their value.
If and when the right amount of supply and demand is met, translating into "social equilibrium," we are all free to proceed to frolic.
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